Laura Broadwater

Paul, when I began ministry a lifetime ago, a friend of mine gave me this advice, go to the hospital, visit the patient, but don’t get in bed with them.  If I am emotionally engaged and worn, then I have to reflect on what hooks me in the situation.  I have colleagues who are greatly disturbed that I don’t well up in tears at the drop of a hat.  I think it is because, I check myself, and check for transference, go enabling, for unhealthy processing.  I don’t think that makes me cold or uncompassionate.  I feel it makes me more available to care and tend the spirit of the person with whom I am ministering.