Rick Underwood

Thanks all for your insightful and helpful comments.  Our seminar this month is Spiritual Care for Grieving Children. I thought the author of our book had some great suggestions about helping kids become resilient through the grief process.  In a Psychology Today article I came across, the author suggests that a phrase like, “I am sorry for your loss” can be a canned phrase that helps separate us from the grieving person.  The author suggested instead, “nothing will ever be the same” or “my heart hurts for you” lessons the distance.  I have used all of these and at the time of the initial shock, I don’t think it really matters what we say if we don’t say too much, because the grieving person doen’t really hear words anyhow.  I would be interested in your thoughts.