Hi, thanks for what you wrote. What you related i have found to be so common in the face of any loss.  Personal or professional, in a spiritual environment or at home,no words fit, presence matters, and listening to words and awareness of what is going on in front of you might, just might bring on the grace needed in the moment. And yes I agree it is already there, naming it, letting someone know it is ok to be anxious when they have suffered trauma … is enough.