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Thanks for the questions. My mom was a wonderful, spiritual lady. Somewhere along the line, she developed a theology that including the notion that if something bad happens to someone you love, it is often your fault. For many years, this was my default thinking/feeling. It was not helpful but it does speak to the personalization the author discusses.
In the hospital, while attending a person who has a sudden loss of a loved one, I hear things like, “I can’t go on.” “I can’t do my life without him/her.” or “Oh, my God!” I am not sure any verbal response is of much help. I have just tried to be there and let them know I hear them. On some occasions, I have said, “I hear you, I know you feel that way, right now.”
Many years ago, I went through a painful divorce and I remember feeling/thinking it was all my fault, the impact would never end, and that it would effect/affect my life forever. Fortunately, I had good friends who had been through a divorce, a good therapist, and good reading material that helped me see a future that was different.