Hi, I watched the videos and finally have gotten the book and am reading it. As I read, listen and reflect, so many images come forward. I can personally identify with sudden loss. my beloved and only sister my mentor, my best friend! She was all of the above. 10 years older, she was born in Italy and I was born here when my mom came to be reunited with my dad. She was loved by all and when people told me how sorry they were i vividly  remember saying, yes so am I. Allowing others to express their grief in return is a balm for them. Thanks.