Joy, I was thinking along the same lines of how the chaplain did have an opportunity to convey “unconditional positive regard” for the couple as a couple, validating and honoring their relationship and giving it just as high a place in society as other relationships. We don’t have enough information to know how far the chaplain went in this regard, but that is one of the things that jumped out to me as a likely spiritual need of this individual.

Thanks for your thoughtful and poignant reflections.