Joy, I wonder the same thing about church myself and honestly don’t see much hope in our current time for making church a safe place. There are just so many hard and fast ways of thinking that people won’t give up. Only in churches that are openly accepting do I see a safe place. My friend who is a SW at our hospital (social worker) is lesbian and married to another employee. They got caught up in the Methodist voting and decided to leave their church. Interesting, the church has an “open worship” that they decided they could still attend. Even though I am Presbyterian and we allow same sex marriage, the church I attend had a youth pastor who was openly lesbian and got married in the church and that caused some to leave. And they didn’t want their kids exposed to this. Such a hard thing to minister to everyone in this situation!