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Trish Matthews

It was a “coming out”as I had struggled with whether or not I would or could do an LGBTQ wedding.  Now that I am Presbyterian it was sanctioned (I am PCUSA).  I struggled with what I believed and thought, knowing full well we have many fundamentalist Christians in our hospital who might not approve.  I just finally decided that love is love and I actually felt very good about doing it.  It was fun to work with the couple and make it what they envisioned, using their language especially at the end.  I said “I now pronounce you married.  You may kiss one another.”  And then I said “I now present to you Mrs. and Mrs. and their first names.  It was what they requested, again not using the word “wife.”  Interesting that I only got positive comments as a result!