William James, Rose, Gail, and others,
I am very grateful to Gail for facilitating and sharing in our journey. Welcome back William and Rose and I hope others will join us soon. If not, to coin a phrase, “where two or three or gathered together” good things can happen. Grief is like change. It is something none of us can avoid without paying a large price.
In addition to my other postretirement involvements, I recently signed on as a part-time PRN chaplain. In two months, almost all of my calls during the deep of night has been to sit with a dying patient and or family. While I have certainly journeyed through grief over the loss of so much, I experience the first two phases discussed in your article in profound ways in a few minutes and hours of the anticipated and actual loss.
I am currently grieving the temporary loss of functioning after elective surgery. While I know this is short lived, I have been amazed at the impatience, irritation, and general uncomfortableness that has accompanied.
I wonder if my reinvesting myself in different projects is my way of avoiding the grief related to retirement?