I too read these and say to myself–oh, Kathy pay attention.  As I believe Yoda says–“You have much to learn.”

I guess, I read the lag time as a moment to breathe in and be sure I have completely listened to the speaker, before I chose a response.

I, too, wondered how much lag time to take by practicing different ideas.

For me I know that I need to slow down conversations and not just react to the surface of what others are telling me.