Kathy, thank you for your posting. I read, ” I didn’t really remember feeling that the divorce was my fault, but I appreciated him telling me,” and that you felt cared for… It sounds like it was a possitive experience at that time. I am wondering if you can say anything about what would have made this pastoral care even more helpful at that time in your life? What were you feeling at that time? Could this caring person said anything else to be more on target in identifying your need for being understood?