Dierdre, it is nice to hear from you.
I also enjoyed the creative idea of honoring the stump. One thing I have noticed with many of my hospice families is that they feel as if somehow they aren’t allowed to be creative, as if they are only supposed to do certain things. I have found that giving them permission to create their own rituals and to think creatively has led to some very meaningful experiences for family members, especially children. I love the story of your daughter taking her flute to play for your mother because it shows how powerful and simple a ritual can be – the important thing is that it was organic to their relationship. Again with my hospice families, I saw well-meaning people trying to force rituals that had no meaning to the family involved. One size doesn’t fit all, especially for kids.