I so appreciate your open and candid sharing of your own journey. We are all “wounded healers” for sure. You obviously share out of the deep journey and the pain you have experienced and lived through. I agree with your hesitation to embrace the suggestions around suicide and the discussion about heaven. Since most parish pastors have little or no training in practical theology or CPE or equivalent experience, I think it is hard to address these theological questions in ways that kids or adults for that matter can embrace. More thought and creativity needs to be used in creating better ways to talk with kids about death, heaven, suicide, etc.