Carolyn and all,
Thank you for sharing both your thoughts and your feelings. I too had tears in my eyes as I read. The memory that emerged for me was when my wife and I sat down to tell our 4-year-old son that we were going to separate. The word divorce wasn’t mentioned but he could tell this was a threatening thing. He broke into tears and immediately we began to cry. He stopped crying and began to console us. Through his recovery and therapy work after 12 years of addiction, he uncovered the insight and feeling that during our separation and divorce, he made “little boy” decisions not to feel his feelings and not to enjoy his playful side. Recovery has been painful but wonderful as he has been able to revisit that earlier grief, own, express it, and work through it.